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祝2024年一切順利！

最近我一直在看有關自證預言的影片，是和比馬龍效應(蝴蝶效應)相似，因果論、形上學。我們的信念如何塑造他人的行為。研究顯示，人與人之間溝通百分之七十是非言語的，其他人的思想和對我們的感受也可以塑造我們的行為。比馬龍效應是一種現象，就是當某人對另一個人有更高的，或好的信任感，相信對方會好，可以導致對方有更好的表現。這種效應還體現在管理者對下屬的期望，以及他們如何對待下屬，在很大程度上，也決定了下屬的表現和發展。另外的例子是老師對學生有好的期望信念⋯等等

那要怎麼改變別人對我們看法，和改善不利於自己的情況，最快的方式是，我們可以通過改變對自己自身的態度，以及對自己的看法，我們能改成正面的看法，認可自己，來轉換自我毀滅性的信念模式。因此，我們對待別人的方式，和我們對自己的看法，對我們的人生際遇 ，有著巨大的影響力。

我漸漸地開始相信顯化這個詞，也像是一種預感，我們吸引到生活中的一切都是基於我們的想像，我們的信念，有時候是一種內在感受，他會顯化出來。這是透過思維和信仰。顯化意味著通過想像並有意識地、可視覺化(畫面化)，這會影響我們的行為，並啟動某些事件發生，所以你想顯化的事，你必須想像它，並相信它，就像它現在正在發生一樣。多年前讀過的一本書《秘密》基本上提到了我們吸引生活中的一切，這是由腦海中的信念所引起的，這是你正在思考的你所相信的。

顯化的過程首先涉及一個清晰的願景，然後體驗到自己“已經擁有或擁有某物”的強烈感覺，再加上感覺感受。我們的想像和感覺是”中立”的；如果你預期發生負面事情，那麼負面事情將會發生。當然，我們都希望取得正面的結果，因此在顯化的過程中，我自己的體驗是一種「自信的感受」和「安全感」還有「已經接受」「豐盛富足」「愉悅」的強烈感受，就像做了一筆很對的投資一樣，有安全感，有確定感！而好的預感，壞預感都會有，因爲感受都是中立的。

Have you ever done a health check in a hospital? A few months ago, I went to the hospital for my health check, and it was also my first time doing a DNA test, also known as genetic testing. This test requires a sample of your blood, and the results come out two months later.

DNA testing helps you understand if you have a higher or lower possibility of inheriting family diseases. Another benefit is that, in case you get cancer or other diseases, DNA testing is helpful in selecting personalized medicine, it’s revolutionizing the healthcare field in the future.

Surprisingly, looking at your DNA can also provide insights into your personality. While environmental factors and life experiences also influence who we are, genetics plays a fundamental role in our personality.

When I went to the hospital lab to get my DNA report, there was nothing to worry about regarding my physical health. I only have a family history of high cholesterol, which means a healthy diet and regular exercise are more important for my own health benefits. However, the test result also shows that I have an isolated personality due to a lack of serotonin in my brain.

Serotonin is a chemical in our body that carries messages from the brain. It helps us feel relaxed and happy. The doctor told me that my lower serotonin levels lead to a higher rate of anxiety. This is also the reason why I experience heart palpitations and an impact that my heart is beating too quickly and irregularly when I feel anxious.

親愛的台灣，在最後一天一個人旅行的旅程到數幾小時結束。我只能說，感謝再感謝🙏
我們看別人照片都會羨慕別人過的比自己好，這些「好」都是自己的想像，同理的「壞」也是自己的想像。這趟旅程我對「文化」有新的理解，「文化」必須含蓋「包容心」紐約是個大熔爐，城市地鐵老舊，非常不方便，吃東西也沒台灣便宜方便，這裡之所以又美又酷，是因為「包容」各式人種和文化，因為這是國際村，所以這裡貧富差距很大，也非常非常競爭。
台灣很美，人很單純，環境不像紐約這麼競爭，但是我們會忽略到，也許再很快未來的幾年，我們的城市要發展的快，首先必須要「包容」所有「文化」先撇開「好」「壞」這包容也包含「各國人民」所謂沒受教育，勞工鄉下人，有歐美人，和東南亞，中國大陸的人⋯⋯
撇開政府，政治方的視角，我們改用「人」去看待事情，就像紐約這樣的大城市，我們不看人種、國籍、性別、性向、年齡，而是看「人」，這「包容性」才是「文化」的根本之一。
用愛、用善、用光、用同理心、用包容為出發點去看世界。

Time goes by so fast; I came back from Hong Kong last night, and it feels great after this trip. I wish I could travel more since I haven't traveled for years. Everything is so fresh and exciting.
My mom and I used to visit the jewelry trade show every September in Hong Kong. The last time we visited was three years ago. Everyone says Hong Kong has changed, and yes, it has changed. According to my observation, the most significant change in Hong Kong is the people, not the environment. Previously, Hong Kong had the worst reputation for service, but now it's different; people are friendlier. It might be because there are fewer travelers compared to years ago.
Even the jewelry show has changed a lot too. The CVD lab diamonds have profoundly changed the diamond industry ecosystem. Diamond Rapaport prices have dropped by about 20%. Lab diamonds can easily be mass-produced in factories, and it's quite difficult to distinguish them. Even though people can do a test using equipment or buy a diamond with a certificate, those melee diamonds or diamonds less than 0.10ct are very difficult to distinguish. It might decrease diamond prices even more in the future.
On the other hand, pearl prices have increased significantly. Pearls have become more difficult to cultivate due to sea pollution issues, and the environment has worsened with increasing temperatures.
We didn't buy as much jewelry as usual; we were just browsing. However, I did buy a diamond earring for myself. There are more new companies from China. In the past few years, most jewelry factories have shifted to China, and these factories have started to grow and establish their own brands. The market has become much more competitive, and there aren't many customers at the shows. I can feel that it's still a difficult time for some companies.

 I’m going to Hong Kong for a business trip tomorrow. I have not traveling for around three years. A few people have told me that Hong Kong has changed a lot after the pandemic. I hope it’s not as crowded as usual.

Recently, I have been reading an investment book that includes a few tips I really like. The author has his own philosophy of investment in a spiritual way. He suggests we make a wish and try to calculate self-cultivation of the mind. Most importantly, he emphasizes being motivated by altruism to give to charity. Altruistic spirituality is an essential motivation in investment.

I started investing in the stock market during the pandemic, around two years ago. In the past, I had no idea about equity capital. But I love reading, especially books about human history. During Covid, everyone stayed at home, and the global stock market was like a roller coaster, going up and down really fast. Many people acted like crazy gamblers, including my parents. They put a lot of money into shipping stocks and even asked me to invest in them. However, I felt very insecure about it. Two months later, the stock market started to plummet, and I was lucky to get away from it. Because I spent the whole summer reading books, I read more than 20 investment books. I had a strong ambition to make money. Actually, I really enjoyed it, so I started to delve into the field. I have knowledge about the general electronics industry. However, the only thing holding me back from earning more money is my restless mind. I feel I’m not confident enough and I get anxious all the time. I easily make wrong decisions. I always sell my stocks too early.

I have to deal with my self-confidence issues. I’ve started to think about my motivation for investment. Actually, I really like to help others. I have been making donations to charity. A few months ago, in April, I was in love, and I was doing well in my investments too. Because my motivation is about giving and loving, I have positive expectations for the future. A positive motivation can be applied to all different areas in life. I would feel really happy if I were able to help others. This year, I've also helped my parents earn some money in the stock market. It's actually one of the reasons why I wanted to delve into stock trading. I'm hesitant because they suffered significant losses, but I believe they will recover in the future. My goal is to buy my own house.

But in terms of relationships, I think I really need to learn how to receive love from others. My relationships always end in the same kind of scenario. I always find myself in relationships with men who are going through their lowest moments in life. The same scenario happens to me over and over. When they overcome the low points in their lives, they tend to leave me. I may have a streak of heroism. I never allow myself to be the one to be the rescuer. I need to learn how to receive love from others and truly love myself.

Recently I have been joining a few English language exchange activities， I tried to keep myself busy， this might be the way to escape heartbreak and negative emotions. Also, I’ve been watching lots of stand-up comedic reels on YouTube， I’m crazy about it, especially I love watching Uncle Roger’s channel， I’m also listening to his podcast， comedic actor  Jimmy O Yang is really funny too. I’m enjoying they make those cultural jocks， make me laugh， I also write a comedic speech， it was a scenario that happened in a language exchange. English is my second language， and the best way to interpret properly is to think in English culture. By the way， I think Trevor Noah plays really well with the culture mimic. One of his shows on Netflix has talked about language accents and discrimination, he acted perfectly. There is more, the British rock star Russell Brand's stand-up is also brilliant. He is like a 1960’s hippie living in 2023. Always talking about some spiritual or consciousness philosophy. His contents its pretty mind-blowing, and also give me some inspiration about spiritual stuffed. I have joined an organization called Toastmasters, so I have to prepare a speech. I have written a few contents too……. Here is one of the speeches below…..

I love my big toes

One day, I made an Indian friend through language exchange activities. We had a chat about the caste system in India. In many ways, India is very conventional. The caste system divides people into different social statuses. It's an ancient system of social hierarchy based on their birth. The caste system in India has historical roots and can impact people's lives!

Because I'm so curious, I asked him: For those from the lower classes, can they change their future lives and choose their own pathways? Perhaps move to other cities or change their names? But he told me that it's not possible. He said everyone knows everyone in India.

India is so big! India is the most populous country in the world, even more populous than China.

法蘭西斯·培根 Francis Bacon1909年10月28日－1992年4月28日，生於英國英格蘭的畫家，為同名的英國哲學家後代，培根的畫給人有種陰暗、犀利、強烈、詭譎、憂鬱的印象。他本身是家中第二小孩，也是位同性戀，在他出生的年代英國對性向還是趨於非常保守的年代，同性戀行為是會坐牢的，再加上他的父親對他特別的嚴格，各種不愉快的童年，讓他個性更加陰沉，有種憂鬱的氣質。

由於他的畫常是全黑或是沒有背景邊框的呈現方式，在畫主題上也挑選較強烈的顏色作對比，讓畫中的主題特別有立體感，跟背景相呼應在視覺上特別有立體感，像是在現實中觀看著從黑暗中走出來的怪物，如噩夢般從不可預測的黑暗走出來。據說科幻電影裡的異形和恐怖片的地獄使者也都是參考培根的畫中怪物去做刻劃的。最近看到他的教宗collection草稿又被拿出來拍賣，這系列也讓我印象特別深刻，覺得很有意義。

他的畫比較像是將人性最恐懼，最黑暗的一面直接在畫中表達出來。地球存在幾億年，在人類文明開始，古文明多神論，再到西元前1500年開始第一個宗教猶太教，西元開始(耶穌誕生為西元1年)基督教，再來一連串其他延伸宗教，歐洲大陸中世紀(約西元500年前後)天主教的教宗，擁有的權利是最大的，因為當時教宗為神的代言人，連皇室貴族都不能反抗教宗，前後也因為爭奪權力，和國與國的資源，貿易等等因素，教宗也發動了多次十字軍抗戰，凡參與戰爭的能被神赦免出身就帶的罪，還能上天堂，甚至在戰役中多數都是兒童兵，年約10-14歲的孩子們上戰場。十字軍東征長達300年後才停止。這以宗教和神之名操控人民思想的教宗，也許在培根眼裡就是活脫脫的魔鬼代言人吧，他只是比較誠實畫出來而已。

培根讀很多尼采的文學創作，尖叫的教宗在第二次世界大戰後期間的創作，或許有種對生活焦慮和不安的呈現，上帝之死的表現。培根晚期也說過，"他認為生活本身沒有意義，是我們在自己的存在中給其意義"
存在主義者對後來宗教的存在認為是沒意義的，因為一件事件意義都是人給的。

看完這部電影真的是滿滿的感動，而且這部片一點也不悶，反而有許多幽默插曲，忍不住在這裡跟大家分享推薦。

這部電影是由真人真事改編，故事背景是在美國1962年代，也是在馬丁路德金恩博士發表"我有一個夢"人權平等演講之前。美國雖然是個移民大國，但是同時間也是種族對立問題最復雜的國家，在1960年代黑奴還沒被全面解放，尤其在美國的南部還是對黑人滿滿的歧視，Don Shirley是一個古典音樂家，他聘請了一名義大利籍的保鑣兼司機Tony Lip陪他一起在美國各地巡演，一黑一白的搭配，尤其主子是個黑人，從紐約一路開車到美國南方，讓兩位格外的引人注目，當中也發生了一些插曲。"綠皮書"是指專為黑人出版的小冊子，裡面寫滿了各個對黑人友善的公共場所，包含餐廳，旅館....等等，1960年代美國南方更是保守，許多地方都是禁止黑人進入的，甚至黑人還會被攻擊和不人道對待。Don Shirley是一位舉止文雅的音樂家，而Tony是一位說話粗俗，有小混混氣質的保鑣。

Tony是一個義大利白人，因為生存在工產階級的環境，他比較自我中心，習慣暴力解決事情，也會使用一些小伎倆騙到好處，同時他也歧視黑人。但是他有一群好兄弟跟家人們，身邊充滿了愛。

Don是個黑皮白骨的黑人音樂家，他在有教養的環境下長大，但是他喜好的古典音樂是白人的天下，因為他的環境跟喜好，讓他不能夠融入任何的黑人或白人生活圈，所以他總是寂寞一個人工作，和每晚喝悶酒。

因為不想爆電影雷，所以我用電影台詞來帶感想跟人生觀點好了。

雖然這是2014年的影片，但是珠寶藝術完全不受時空限制，尤其是古董珠寶的設計更是不得了，我很喜歡ART DECO時期的設計，幾何圖形的排列更顯個性。
寶石有稀有性的限制，所以相對起來不像服裝那麼容易創作，反觀早期的珠寶設計非常華麗大膽，因為都是皇室貴族所擁有。
我很喜歡蛋白石，蛋白石油彩五顏六色，有一種神祕感，可以搭配各式寶石。其中還有鑽石搭配水晶，跟17MM天然珍珠(非養殖珍珠)和伊莉莎白泰勒的祖母綠項鍊。
看這部影片後，我覺得寶石的搭配很重要，土耳其石，水晶也能夠搭配鑽石或紅寶石藍寶石，珠寶設計如果跳脫出材質的框架，更能創作驚豔的作品。
當然作品如果融合了各國的文化的故事性，又或者建築設計的思維，服裝設計的思維，珠寶設計不再只是排列組合而已。

最近看了愛無能的世代這本書，突然有些感慨，是說在這個追求獨特完美自我的年代，我們漸漸的在愛裡面失能。記得在20幾歲的時候，會閱讀一些工具書，例如窮爸爸富爸爸，二十歲決定女人的一生...等等成書籍，對於自身不管是外在或是內在，都想追求完美，很願意花錢去投資自己努力學習成為更好的人。

身邊也不乏許多跟我一樣的女性友人，也漸漸發現城市裡的女子，除了穩定工作外，每個人都喜歡追求品味生活，徹底的貫徹獨立自主和成功都會女子的形象，漸漸的，一群單身女子也就這樣一起渡過無數次的聚會。又或者是大家私下有些約會的對象，可是最終也都不了了之，或總不能夠建立起一段長久的關係，好像在追求自我成就的同時也在捨棄親密關係。前一陣子有部非常好看的日劇，叫做<東京女子圖鑑>看完這部日劇我感到五味雜成，裡面女主角綾根本就是現在都市女子的翻版，一個無止境追求所謂令人羨慕的幸福人生。

但是何謂幸福的定義呢?在城市裡生活的女子們幸福的定義就像是在套用使用公版一樣。

幸福的定義

在這科技的時代，臉書和IG照片，像是放海外旅遊的照片，又或者是去高檔的餐廳打卡，就只是想呈現出令人羨慕的形象。二十一世紀，雖稱男女平等，在連同志都可合法結婚的一個社會，女人追求幸福的定義也就越來越無止境，尤其是在外在物質上。

哈利王子

在2017年底，娛樂版面常出現的花花公子哈利王子竟然公開宣布喜訊要與女友梅根馬克爾訂婚了，而求婚戒當然也是這樁喜事的亮點之一喽。

我們常常看到外國的電影劇情會是男主角拿著當年媽媽或是奶奶留下來的戒指作為訂婚戒，當然哈利王子跟哥哥威廉王子也不例外。

不過在台灣確實比較少人會拿家人留下來的戒指作為求婚戒，我也曾有經驗收到客人拿著祖母留下來的鑽戒想拆鑽石另外訂一個新的戒台，但是經過我們鑑定發現鑽石是人造鑽石也是有的。早期台灣對於鑽石的資訊比較不發達，並不是像現代買鑽石附有鑑定證書，或是有鑑定儀器能夠方便鑑定鑽石真偽。

但是鑽戒真的是傳家之寶呢，像黛安娜王妃當年遺留下來的寶石，傳承下來給王子們重新設計過後向他們心愛的女人求婚，意義確實重大。

 2018 

荷蘭前衛雙人組設計師 Viktor & Rolf在時尚界一向是搞怪創意， Viktor Horsting 與Rolf Snoeren 兩位設計師，1992年畢業於 Amherm Academy of Art 便創立了VIKTOR&ROLF 品牌，尤其在高級訂製服作品，總是呈現一鳴驚人的創意，往往對於時尚界有著極具的影響力。在他們有如雙胞胎的裝扮與絕佳的默契特質，斯文冷靜的外表蘊藏著源源不絕的美感創造力。

二人由於對成衣時尚的快速變化感到厭倦，繼Jean Paul Gaultier之後，荷蘭設計師雙人組Viktor & Rolf也選在2015秋冬時裝周開始前，宣布將停止男女成衣系列，專心於能表現其藝術創意的高級訂製服 。雖說退出成衣界也意味著收益可能變少，但是二人推出的自家品牌香水，以及也歸類於高級訂製的婚紗產業備受好評，不過對雙人組來說，能夠忠於自己的創作理念看來才是最重要的。

在他們的作品裡還是可以發掘出一些既定的創意元素，蝴蝶結，編織，多層堆疊，枕頭套奏摺邊，俐落剪裁，3D立體布料...等等

他們有幾季設計主軸是白色襯衫，顏色很單一，跟今年2018年COLLECTION 單一面料的為主題其實也是有些相像，這季最不同的是色彩上繽紛，也同樣可以從設計的細節上看到他們的正字標記枕頭邊肩袖造型。蝴蝶結也都是他們拿手經典點綴方式，但其實整場秀看下來，我覺得面罩頭飾也非常搶戲，可以看到小小的巧思在上頭，像是重頭開始號召春季的來臨，蝴蝶會很自然停留在你頭上的感覺。